Making Time For Each Other.
In The Middle Of All The Treatment, Couples Can Sometimes Lose Sight Of The Fact That They Still Have A Relationship To Maintain With Each Other. Some Say That Going Through Ivf Brings Them Closer Together, Both In The Support They Have To Give Each Other And In The Issues That They Have To Talk Through. Just Filling In The Forms Required By The Human Fertilization And Embryology Authority Makes Couples Think And Talk Through What They Want Done With Their Own Genetic Material. The Process Of Naming Each Other As The Person For Whom Their Sperm And Eggs Are To Be Used Can Make Or Reaffirm The Commitment Each Partner Has To Other. Others Find That The Strain, Or Unresolved Guilt Or Resentment, Drives Them Apart.
Sometimes It Helps Deliberately To Set Aside Time For Each Other In What Can Otherwise Be A Treadmill Of Treatment. This Means Reserving The Time And Money For Holidays And Outings. Since Most Couples Have Their Treatment At Great Expense In The Private Sector, This Is Often Easier Said Than Done. But It Can Help Prevent The Misunderstandings That Arise When Couples React Differently To Different Stages Of Treatment. The Study By New Man And Zoves Showed That During Ovulation Induction And Egg Retrieval, The Major Emotion Experienced By Women Was Anxiety While Men Had Predominantly Positive Feelings, If The Study Had Looked At Production Of The Sperm Sample The Position Could Well Have Been Completely Reversed, Since Almost Universally This Is Singles Out As The Most Important Stress Factor For Men. Each Partner Can Get Very Wrapped Up In The Demand Of Their Own Individual Role And Fail To Notice Difficulties Being Experienced By The Other. Here Is An Account Of One Such Mismatch And The Consequences.
I Think Something In The Marriage Died Going Through All This Treatment Because Of All The Stress. He Was So Determined And Desperate To Have Children. He Became Unhealthily Obsessed By It. I Had A Much More Laid Back Attitude And Thought It Would Eventually Work. I Think It Is Hard For A Man To Get Involved In The Treatment. By The Third Time There Was No Involvement For Him He Was Not Present When I Did The Injections Because Hated Needles. It Was Not Unpleasant Time. If I Had Not Worked Though Out All The Treatment I Think I Would Not Have Been Around Today. If You Have A Husband Who Will Not Let Anyone Talk About It And Becomes Completely Obsessed By It. It Is Incredibly Difficult. I Did Not Tell My Parents And Had A Selected Group Of Friends Who Acted As A Sounding Board For Me.
The Other Area Where Couples May Need To Compare Notes Carefully Is On How Long They Want To Go On With Treatment Which May Be Related To The Strength Of Their Desire For A Family. It’s Often Assumed That It’s Often Assumed That It’s The Woman Who Most Wants A Child And The Man Who Is The Supportive Partner. But This Can Be Far From True. Here Is One A Account From A Woman Who Feels She Has The Stronger Desire To Have A Baby.
My Husband Had Two Children From A Former Marriage Whom See Every Week. I Must Admit That At Times I Have Resented The Fact That He Has Got With Someone Else What He Will Probably Never Have With Me. I Have Always Felt That Having Children Has Been Moe Important To Me Than To Him Because He Already Has Tow Boys Although In Fairness He Has Always Been Supportive Thought The Investigations And Treatment. I Have Secretly Envied The Women Who Feel At One With Their Partner In Their Desperation. The Next Account Is From A Woman Who Feels Her Partner Is More Anxious To Have A Baby. 